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“My initial reaction was numbness. The world did not have a past or a future. There was nothing I could now do about the past, and the future could change in an instant. So planning and seeing ahead...
‘My grief, unique to me, but oh how unfortunately common.
I used to think about the legacy I was leaving my grandchildren when I died, what would they remember about me? I never thought I would ha...
To outlive your child goes against the natural order of things, so that the death of your child is probably the hardest thing that you will ever have to manage. It is the ultimate loss: of hopes and d...
When a baby or child dies
The death of a baby or child can be a devastating experience. Grief can take over the whole being, and it is not uncommon for bereaved parents to feel pain and despair, ange...
“It seems like a wisp of time that you were here.
Places ache inside as I silently mourn.”
The loss of a baby at any stage of pregnancy can have a profound impact on parents.
What Grieving People Want You to Know1
Please don’t avoid me. You can’t catch my grief. My world is painful and when you are too afraid to call me or say anything, you isolate me at a time when ...
The death of a child is perhaps the greatest tragedy that can occur to parents. You will be changed by this devastating loss and you may find that your previous thoughts and plans about having another...
“We tell children about the birds and the bees but we don’t really let them know about what happens when they stop flying. Death is a part of life and when people stop thinking of it as a taboo su...
“I waited so long for you and then in such a short time you were gone. Such a tiny life, such a huge impact.”
The impact of a sudden and unexpected death of a child presents unique grieving factors and raises painful psychological issues for the parents and family, as well as those who support them. Parents m...
Guiding Light Booklets and Brochures
Always Your Child
This volume provides guidance, support and wisdom for those who have lost a child. There is honest recognition of their grief and pain,and of the tragedy inherent in such loss.
Another Baby? The Decision is Yours
The death of a child is perhaps the greatest tragedy that can occur to parents. Your will be changed by this devastating loss and you may and that your previous thoughts and plans about having another child will now also be affected.
Bereavement Support Services
Red Nose Grief and Loss is aware that people need different kinds of support at different times, so we offer you a range of bereavement support options.
Choices in Arranging a Child’s Funeral
The funeral is the last physical act of caring for your child. It is a time, amid profound grief, when you can acknowledge your child and the meaning your child’s life holds for you and your family.
Coping with the holiday season - a letter to give to frends and family
This time of year can be overwhelming, with the Christmas spirit hard to miss. It seems to appear out of nowhere, and appears everywhere you look.
This example letter can be given to to family and friends before the Christmas Day to help them understand the gravity of how this time of year may affect you.
You are reading this pamphlet because your baby, or babies, has died or will soon die. In the next few hours and days you will be faced with decisions that you may find difficult, especially as you struggle to understand what has happened. Support is available and we hope this pamphlet will give you information about the choices you have at this difficult time.
Grandparent to Grandparent
This booklet is an acknowledgement that grandparents experience deep sadness when a child dies. We hope that in reading it you may and support in the words of other grandparents.
Information for Health Professionals
This brochure provides information on the range of Bereavement Support Services provided by Red Nose Grief and Loss.
Stillbirth and Neonatal Death
The death of a loved one is hard to understand at any time but, for many, the loss of a baby is incomprehensible. Yet this loss is experienced by one in every hundred families. For those families, the stillbirth or death of their newborn is something that will affect them, and their families, for the rest of their lives.
Sudden Unexpected Death in Childhood
The death of a child is like no other death – it has been described as the ‘ultimate loss’, a loss of hopes and dreams, a loss of part of oneself as a parent, the loss of a role and purpose in society, a loss of a future with your child. This grief is not only painful, but profoundly disorienting – children are not supposed to die.
To Family and Friends: You Can Make a Difference
To every family, the sudden unexpected death of a baby or young child is devastating. The family’s world is turned upside down. They may feel angry, confused, hurt – and alone. Your support, caring and friendship are so important during this time.
Treasured Babies’ Program
The Treasured Babies’ Program began with the aim of supporting bereaved parents while they are still in hospital with their baby (or babies in the case of a multiple birth).
What About the Other Kids?
When a child dies suddenly and unexpectedly, it has an impact on the whole family. Like you, your surviving children will be deeply affected by the death of their brother or sister.
When Relationships Hurt, Too
In our society we are often ill prepared to deal with grief. The death of a child is so unexpected that few of us have had time to think, let alone talk, about these issues.